Can a submissive woman still be called a feminist?

Perhaps so: or maybe, can a feminist still be called a submissive woman?


Feminism:the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.

Let’s take spanking and all the various offshoots as belonging in the social realm. Is a woman who is spanked truly equal? Does it matter if she’s spanked by a man or by a woman? As I wrote here: Is spanking sex? I point out for many, the sexual/sensual aspects are the main focus.

If a woman believes her body, her sexual responses and her mind all belong to her and is equal to a man, then she has the right to choose any activity she enjoys. If a feminist woman likes to be spanked, then why would it be wrong? Isn’t the whole point of female empowerment to be an open and eager acceptance of blatant sexual response? When spanking, or enemas, or bondage or anything ‘kinky’ turns a woman on, she should feel the freedom to ask her partner to participate in her fantasies.

Being submissive in a relationship is not about a power struggle between unequal partners. In my essay: For couples seeking spanking I wrote that for a woman, it’s most often her who explores the concept of active submission. Not to say a man may want to spank his wife as foreplay, but a woman who feels safe with her husband will push the boundaries. If… if she is a feminist.

A feminist is a woman who knows what she wants and has the ability and passion to reach for her dreams. If those dreams include being submissive to her man and going over his knee on regular occasions, then yes, a submissive woman is still a feminist.