Spanking for pleasure

If you did a word association with ‘spanking’, the likely top response would be ‘punishment’. Even within the D/s community, spanking is used frequently for discipline and correction, rather than fun. That being said, if you said ‘sex’, the word most commonly utilized is probably ‘fucking’. After all, it depends on your definition of what ‘it’ is.

We are a genitally obsessed society. Every focus of swiping right is to get a penis in a vagina, or two cocks hooking up, or two pussies or a any dizzying variety of possibilities. Breasts and buttocks are reduced to visual mounds of flesh, flashing interest and availability while ‘down below’ prep is in full swing.

Not for spankos though. We know that time spent caressing, fondling, pinching, squeezing and of course, smacking the rounded rump of our partner, gets the mind into an area fraught with arousal. I am sure some of you can masturbate to climax without engaging in internal fantasy, but it’s a lot better when you orgasm thinking about someone or something else.

I know from reading many of your blog posts, spanking is often used this way; as foreplay. Whether you liked to be spanked, or like to spank, sex is more than bumping genitals. Yes, that’s often the payoff, but the route to get there can take many different forms. Bending over a lover’s knee and being spanked moderately until red and glowing, is a great way to get pleasure out of spanking. It makes the ‘sex’ that follows, all that much better.

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  1. I totally agree with you and the majority of our spanking and other impact play is erotic. We do use it in other ways too but not really for punishment. Personally I think us spankos have it right in seeing much more to life than the bumping and grinding. 😊

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  2. “Bending over a lover’s knee and being spanked moderately until red and glowing, is a great way to get pleasure out of spanking.”
    – my Daddy would like to get me to this place. But I still struggle to find pleasure in the spankings. I really want to find pleasure in the pain because my Daddy wants me to. Maybe I’ll get there one day. *crosses fingers and toes*

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    • Well, pleasure begins with the mind. Wanting to be spanked because it feels good, arouses you and leads to erotic romping is more about thinking than acting. A little girl spanking — for fun — can be part of a tea party, or playing with stuffies or something that puts you in a giddy frame of mind. Make the spanking part of sexy, silly ritual. It doesn’t have to very painful, just enough to relax and enjoy the sensations and position over Daddy’s knee.

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      • Thanks for the advice! Maybe I’m stressing too much about enjoying it! I do like Dd getting my stuffies to spank me 😊 DD’s assistants!

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  3. Mmmm …. couldn’t agree more with this LS!

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  4. My first ‘sir’ used spanking as a punishment, even in role play it would be because I had been naughty. My new Sir uses it as a reward, although it is the same feeling on my butt cheeks it is a very different pleasure for me knowing its what I want

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    • That’s the key. Finished your chores? Yeah! A reward spanking… it’s better than ice cream. Dark chocolate though? Have to think about that.

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  5. Couldn’t agree more!!! The bottom should not be ignored 🙂

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  6. MrH spanks me as part of erotic play, I love it, the feel of Sirs hand slapping my ass – awsome!!!!

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